Sharing Your Life With Other Christians
A few years back, I had a cousin brother tell me to stop being selfish, get married and have children. Now I know he probably meant well, but I did feel a little offended, it wasn’t like I was intentionally not wanting to get married rather I was more focused at that time in having a career.
Yes I agree, life is meant to be shared however if you are at the season at which you have not yet been blessed with the opportunity to have your own family, may I remind you that it can still be shared and enjoyed as much and equally with your church family. Just imagine how awesome would it be to able to spend life eternally with God our Father in Heaven alongside your brothers and sisters in Christ.
Recently I had the opportunity to meet a lovely elderly couple who were just visiting at my local church and we got chatting after the service. Of course somehow the conversation zeroed in on how old I was and whether I was married or not and I immediately thought here we go again. I then proceeded to respond with a rounded of age range not wanting to disclose my real age. But for the first time while I may have heard the response from the wife spoken on various occasions, this time as I tuned in on her response I heard her speak in a comforting tone that made me instantly feel at ease as though, yes, someone understood where I was. She simply said, dear enjoy your single life and if it (marriage) happens then it happens. Everything happens according to God’s plan for your life.
Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” (Women’s Study Bible NKJV)
It was at that moment where I was truly grateful to be part of a church family that embraces with God’s love. So to the many unnamed daughters who feel as though your own family is giving you too much grief over you being single, your church family are the very people who can embrace you and your single status with more acceptance probably even more then your biological family.
Of course regardless of what nationality you may be from, being part of any family you are bound to have disagreements or misunderstanding and there are times where you may feel as though you are put into something that you feel totally unequipped for. However when your part of God’s family and around people who genuinely care for you, you can feel empowered to step up to the challenge and embrace those around you. And as you interact more frequently with other Christian believers, you begin to care about the health and well being of God’s family.
As a single woman for awhile I got very comfortable with spending time by myself, doing things my own way without putting much effort into being part of the Christian community. I realized at some point that not only was I depriving myself from Godly friendship but because I was isolating myself, closing myself out from what I thought was unwanted stress and attention, I was slowly losing the basic skills to correspond and connect genuinely with others. I was pushing my own self to truly being alone physically, emotionally and spiritually.
My sisters in Christ, don’t ever entertain thoughts that you don’t need anybody and that you can do it on your own as a single woman. Why? Because even though you may be single and maybe successful in your career, you still need others in your life. Be open to the possibility of sharing your time with others besides just your immediately family members.
Galatian 6:2 “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ” (Women’s Study Bible NKJV).
Be Blessed
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